The Oh’s 

The language we speak…have you listened to how you tell stories, how you portray feelings through your words. Have you noticed a pattern or heard how you convey your words? 

I discovered very early on in my self worth journey, that when I spoke; “Oh” was a BIG word I used in my vocabulary. When I explained something happening to me or if I didn’t agree or questioned what was happening I would reply “oh” inviting in the uncertainty of my mind.

It channelled a negative inner dialogue which emotionally I took personally, that it was something I had done or deserved. Spiralling into an instant habit that manifested over years within my confidence.

The discovery of this made me see how much I lost faith in myself and self-worth when people questioned me on my performance, behaviour or actions in certain situations.

It would lead me to think 

“what must I have done?” 

“why have they questioned me?”

 and it was a critical response inside of me, that I had done something wrong in some way.

This saddened me to think I did not have much faith in myself or actions to stand up and face what I knew. I questioned myself and tried to look at other people’s perspective of me before my own truth. 

I had lost faith in my own belief, my self esteem was low.

I decided to recognise when I used the “oh ok” (sometimes an ok would slide in there!) and heard it when I thought/felt I wasn’t good enough.

So since recognising my words, I now identify when I’m about to say it and change the way I respond. Wow, it so hard to break a habit!!

I notice the way I feel and guide myself to not rush into the instant habitual response and wait.

Gaining strength from within, my self-belief started by changing the way I used my words. A small change can lead you into the direction you need to discover within yourself.

You are good enough and the person who needs to realise it is…. You.

Listen to your words and make a change. 

Love ❤️

•Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres •

A reading I’ve heard over and over again at weddings….
But what does being in love mean? Do couples listen and work on the words and commitment they face? 

You encounter many questions when the one you love tells you they are not in love with you anymore…the emptiness surrounds your soul. You want to fill it with questions to look for the ‘answer’. Is there an answer to what you are trying to find? 

Sometimes there is no answer to a question, it just needs to be. It is out of your control and it’s so hard to not be able to make sense of it. Your heart is confused.

Does the magic of love not last? What’s the definition of one’s magic love? The initial chemistry sparks a feeling and with this feeling you flow into what you believe love is. Love like any other feeling will need to be nourished and fed, like a flower. Once it’s neglected the love dies and this can lead to loss.

It is so easy to fall in love but to stay in love is the hardest thing you will ever do. Marriage, relationships, friendships, like many people will say is hard work, if they are worth your energy then this is part of love.

This came up in a conversation recently I had and it got me thinking of the essence of love and life. 

The world revolves around love as a large concept and this as humans is what we have developed. The reason we have religions, the reason we make and form relationships, from family, friends and partners- is stemmed from love. 

Love can bring about great power in uplifting people’s minds. The instinctual reactions of helping the old lady cross the street, to offering a hand when someone has fallen over or simply smiling at someone and asking how they are. 

Compassion of love and kindness.

Yes these traits can have different levels in each individual but it is within us. 

As humans we have developed such an incredible empathy and brain capacity, that we know of, compared to other animals. We want to belong, we want a purpose in our lives, we want to be part of a ‘troop’. Along with this comes emotions, expectations, thoughts, influences which can inevitably complicate the focus. 

Individuals seek and feel love differently, and no one owes you anything.

My personal opinion with love is ‘connection’, and a spiritual feeling of who you meet or come across has happened for many reasons. What is meant for you, won’t pass by you.

People who stay in your life are part of the connection of the journey you face. Encounters aren’t coincidental, they have been put in our path for a reason. 

When we suffer from love is when we have fear, fear of the unknown. This is my own realisation, I breath and stop doing and just be. 

“Today, don’t wish it was another day. Wish it was today. Then you will realize yourself already blessed”

“True love is already within you – one cannot fall in love with that which is outside of the self, ones true nature is already love. Falling in love, is really just coming back home.”

Stay present, have faith and let be. 

Love is within you.